Living Single after Forty

I absolutely love watching the television series, “Living Single.” Just in case you aren’t familiar, it’s based on four single female friends that are actually living single. The friends share their dating highs and lows throughout the series. Kim Cole, whose character is depicted as having a happy go lucky, outgoing, perky personality, seems to be the only one that would gain a husband toward the end of the series. So here I go with my, ‘Comparing the actresses in the episode with real life,’ synopsis, I asked myself the question, “Why are so many women in my age group single?” Is it that we want to be? Could it be that we truly want to get married but we can’t seem to get a man to pop the question? Maybe we don’t need a man? Or just maybe, we have that creative gift to be single.

Well I’ll just share with you my own personal experience and thoughts on that. Ladies, and gentlemen, I personally don’t have that precious gift of singleness. And let me just say if that is your ministry, God bless and keep it! It is my heart’s desire to have a husband. I’ve always wanted to be a God fearing submissive wife, as I pray for my husband to be God fearing and submissive as well. I do trust and believe that God is doing something that I can’t see. But until then I’ll sing the lyrics to Billie Holiday’s song, “Someday he’ll come along, the man I love.” However I do have my days, where it just don’t seem like a husband is anywhere in sight. It feels like every time I think I’ve found, ‘The One,’ I find out that he’s not, ‘The One.’ I will be turning forty-five this year, and it seems that my clock is ticking. So I cry out to God and say, “Lord, did you notice that I’m still not married? Is there something in particular that you’re waiting for because I’ve come across a number of fine, single, God-fearing brothers, and you just allow them to walk on by? Am I doing something wrong Father, Daddy….The Love of my Life?” And my Father, loving me like He does, never gives me the answer I want to hear. He may direct me to Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God,” or Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart,” or Psalm 37:7, “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him,” or even Matthew 6:33, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you,”(NKJV). And there I go with my temper tantrum, “Aggghhhhh God you told me that already!” And he may simply say, “Umm, hmm…Daughter, go write a book and have a good day.”

All and all what I want to remind you ladies is that being single is not the end of the world. We are blessed. God is not going to bless us with a husband that’s not capable of loving us the way that He does. While you wait, delight yourself in Him. Delighting yourself in him does not mean you have to seclude yourself. Live your life! Go to social gatherings, and different ministry events. Your husband just may be at one of those places. Whatever you do be faithful to God and be still. He knows just what you need. And if you make a mistake, repent and move on, but don’t you dare give up and don’t think that you don’t deserve a husband because of that mistake. There are several women in the Bible that probably thought they weren’t deserving of a good husband but God turned it around. Just turn your Bibles to the story of Ruth, Esther, and Leah, just to name a few. They have a story to tell. So women in the words of Kim Cole’s character from the Living Single series, “Woo, Woo, Woo,” cheer up, and live. The Lord is working it out for your good.

From My Heart to Yours "T"